Bringing a new life into the world is one of the most special things that a person can do. Be it as a mother or as a father there is something incredible about the process. From eth moment the waters break to the time that the baby emerges into the light of day, it is a very special journey and a memory to be treasured forever. But the birth is just the start of the journey for the baby and it is very important that you take the time to treasure the first few hours that you have as a parent with the new person in your life. It is very easy for the first precious hour or two to fly past in a blur of chaos and relief – so make sure that when you come up with your birth plan that it doesn’t stop when baby takes its first breath. It needs to include at least the first hour or two of your time as a family and here are some things that you might want to consider.
It can probably wait
Being together as a family, holding the baby and appreciating each other are the most important things that you can do in the moments after the baby has been born. Everything else can wait. The doctors or nurses might want to take the baby away for a wash or to put it on the baby scale. Unless there is clearly something wrong then these are things that can wait. A child is only born once, and if it is not overtly sick or struggling then there is absolutely no reason for that special time to be invaded by medical issues and paperwork – that can all wait for a few hours.
This is a special time for you and your partner and the new baby. So be present and avoid worrying about things like social media and telephone calls. The time for phoning the grandparents or telling the world via Facebook what has happened is later. You will only regret it if you are all over WhatsApp when you should be holding your baby.
You know how excited you are about the arrival of your child and the truth is that there are plenty of other people who are excited too. We are talking siblings and parents and other invested family. So, manage their expectations about how things are going to play out. If you don’t want them at the birth or camped outside waiting to come in as soon as possible, then let them know that well in advance. Giving birth is already quite an emotional and overwhelming thing, to suddenly be inundated with hordes of a family who want to hold your precious bundle of joy can end up being quite traumatic. Remember how you felt as a youngster when some other child wanted to play with your special new birthday present – it feels a bit like that when there are hands desperately wanting to hold onto you newly born baby.